Look Ma… My Hands

Sam recently realised he has these two very useful appendages sticking out from his torso. These things are called arms / hands, and are useful for:

  1. sucking on – tasty treats
  2. grabbing on to larger, encroaching fingers
  3. smacking unsuspecting faces

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He has also found his voice, much to our dismay delight! most times, he will try to hold a conversation with anyone he sees, using his recently acquired language skills – cooing, and gurgling. this just makes our day. every. single. time. BUT…One scream can leave our ears ringing. especially when he’s HANGRY (hungry + angry = Hangry).

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Sam seems to be developing well as a human being. Hitting his developmental milestones, and surprising us all the time with new actions.

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I pray that Sam will develop into a fine young gentleman.

I’ll end with a bit of a poem that has stuck with me since I was 6. I hope that one day, Sam too will appreciate these words. To God be the Glory, The Best is Yet to Be.

“Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, the last of life, for which the first was made. Our times are in his hand who saith, ‘A whole I planned, youth shows but half; Trust God: See all, nor be afraid!”
Robert Browning

 

 

Sam = Daddy + Mummy?

We have constantly been asked the question: “who does Sam look more like? Mummy or Daddy?”

Most friends and family tend to lean towards daddy. 

We think that Sam looks like both of us really. 

i’m linking the article below, although not a journal article, it provides an easy to read summary of some studies that have been published on this. you can read more (also links the journal articles) in the link below.

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/babies-paternal-resemblance/

it’s interesting to note that the literature is mixed on this issue. some claim to have found baby looks like one or the other parent in the first x days/weeks of life. While some others  claim that the baby looks like both parents. 

what really caught my attention is one of the reasons that the evolutionary psychs gave as to why people tend to attribute similarity to the father. 

well, you see the baby is surely the mother’s but this certainty can’t be said for the father. hence, similarity is attributed to the father to give an assurance of paternity. 

Next time you visit a new born, take a moment to observe what people comment about who the baby looks more like. 

So… does Sam look more like mummy or daddy? 

I’ll let you decide. 

CNY 2017

CNY on any other year is already hectic and tiring on its own. This year was a blockbuster CNY for us, we had a special little someone tagging along.

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It was a fresh new experience for all of us, new routines, and schedules with Sam. New homes, environments, and people for Sam. It was being outside for more than 4 hours since hatch day; for this we brought along a truckload of supplies just to be sure.

We did notice a few things as we went visiting.

It seems everyone, already born, got promoted this year. From brothers to uncles, aunties, to grand aunties, from grand parents to great grand parents. All figuring out their new titles (e.g. 太婆,太公,姨婆).

Great grand parents are particularly proud of this 4th gen offspring.

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Most wanted to know:

Who Sam looks more like – We actually have no idea, but it seems Daryl has the majority vote.

Whether he’s breast fed – Sam’s been drinking the good stuff bottled for freshness (also see post titled: “Milk”)

Whether he sleeps through the night – Sam’s been a good boy only waking at specific times to replenish his blood sugar levels. 

Who is taking care of him – Everyone is keeping a keen eye out for his wellbeing (for that we are thankful). Our Parents (Sam’s Goong Goong, Ye Ye, Por Por, Ma Ma) are the main caregivers when we need a break. 

This CNY, the Wongfoks are thankful for all the stories shared, the advice given, and the love showered upon Sam, in this, his first year of life. We pray that he’ll continue to thrive in this wholesome, loving community.

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新年快乐, 万事如意  everyone!

Lessons from a Bottle

I was washing bottles (the 9649792863 bottles needed to keep Sam alive) the other day when i came to the realisation that my hands were getting rougher and more seasoned. Perhaps it was because i hardly had to help with the dishes all these years, mostly done by my parents.

It is one thing to know (in your head) that parents sacrifice (not just doing the dishes) so much for their children, but totally another to experience and internalise this in your proverbial heart.

Standing there, i think i experienced a ‘Circle of Life’ moment.

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Some part of me felt proud of that I / We will be able to provide for this child. While another part of me felt grateful for our parents that taught us enough to provide for this child.

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We may not be the lions or the wildebeests in the Serengeti running in circles, but for us the circle of washing, cleaning, packing, folding, cooking, feeding, teaching, nurturing… goes on.

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1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. – 1 Corinthians 13:1-8

Pro Tips for Contented Adults

Have you ever felt gassy?
Had some indigestion perhaps?
Need to burp or fart, but don’t know how?

Follow these steps to find the secret to calm and confident adulting:

Step 1: Pick up baby (any baby within arms reach, really)

Step 2: Prop baby up with one hand, and cup the other imagining yourself as a 5 year old being an escavator.

Step 3: Hit the baby, gently, with your cupped hand, using consistent repeated motions.

Note: it is at this point where you will find relief from your symptoms. You will either burp, belch or fart.

Note 2: baby will need another 30mins to achieve what you have done.

Step 4: Repeat as necessary.

Picture below shows alternative methods of pacifying a baby. Example shows how the ‘suck on the nose technique’ is applied.

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Sam’s Social Debut

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Sam made his official social  debut yesterday at the full month / first month / baby shower party – The cumulation (and continuation) of sleepless nights, painful ear drums, and human excrement… everywhere. We do feel a overwhelming sense of pride from all that, somehow?

yet somehow we survived the full month, and look forward with great anticipation (why?) to louder screaming, temper tantrums, and bolder aromas that accompany diaper changes – strange how things work really.

[afternote: He slept through his party, waking after everything was over. We, on the other hand, slept only the morning after – party hangover much].

On this day, we celebrated with our family and friends the pride and joy that the begotten one hath brought. We are truly thankful for the love and support that has been showered upon us as a family. We, as a family, enjoyed the day throughly. Your (everyone who came) presence and laughter were key ingredients in welcoming Sam to the outside world.

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(Verb of the day: Peer)

Although, I’m not sure if he will actually remember what happened (i.e., no, he will not remember anything: Infantile Amnesia). But he will feel the love, care and affection from the enduring stories and photos that you share. Of course, please share (age) appropriate stories, and photos with him when he’s older (not something like: ‘oh sam, i tossed you around like a rugby ball at your first month party, when you were soooo *complete with hand gestures* little’).

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* note the rugby ball hold

Dear Sam, as you grow:

5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. – Proverbs 3:5-6

Milk

Milk is usually found in breasts, teats, or udders. For others (namely adults), milk is found in cartons, bottles or crates.

Well, for Mr S, we find milk in the folds of his skin, around his cheeks and lips (the dried kind), on his mittens, socks, eyes, collars. Today we found milk in mid-air. YES, mid-flight, mid-air, on its way to spoil someone’s (and that would be us) day.

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(photo credit: Mummy)